It's interesting to hear other people's opinions. I always listen to anyone talking to me knowing I'll learn something from everyone.
The most relieving people to talk to are the ones who walk in your shoes and the ones who haven't but are compassionate. The ones who have walked in your shoes know how you feel, they know how big a life change it is, they know the intricate details of what goes on and the decisions you need to make and how it ALL makes you feel. Then there are the ones who haven't walked in your shoes but are compassionate. They don't really understand but they want to. They are there for you in a nonjudgmental way. They have no prejudices against you. They're supportive of you both physically and emotionally.
The more interesting people though are the ones who don't walk in your shoes yet talk like they do. They say things like "if I had a cancer I would....." or tell you how you should be handling it or what they disagree with and what you're doing or worse they talk behind your back whether to others or in there own mind. The create stories in their head, prejudices against you, judging you. They think they're doctors and know what you need. Tell you how to handle your situation but are entirely clueless. What these people don't understand is they don't walk in your shoes and this isn't like buying a house or which outfit to wear. I reach out to these people, and pray for these people.
Cancer is different. This is about living, breathing, actual life. A disease I did not choose to have. How do I want to live and cure myself of this horrible disease? Which path do I choose to live? If you're anything like me you'll do endless hours of research. Change your mind a thousand times, ask a billion questions. A billion may sound like a lot but by the time I'm old and thriving, I'll be close to a billion questions. My sister would say from the day I was born, I've already asked a billion questions, lol!! Love you shelly!! I remember my dad and I were driving home from work in Puerto Rico one day and he made a bet I couldn't not ask any questions the rest of the ride home, that was like 10 minutes. I said we're on! About 30 seconds in, I was asking questions, lol!!
When your asked to decide how you want to live, it's emotional, confusing, consuming, horrifying, and constantly nags at your mind, at least that's how it is for me. And your not asked once during cancer, your asked several times how do you want to save your life.
In the western medicine world, do you want to do chemo? If yes, do you want a clinical study where have high risk of heart damage but better chance of survival? Do you want a masectomy or a bilateral mastectomy? And oh by the way we're taking 14 lymph-nodes from your right arm, 1 internal mammary gland and even a few lymph-nodes from the left side which increases your risk of lymphedema. Do you want radiation? Your estrogen positive so you need to shut your ovaries down for the next 10 years (at least) with a shot in the butt every month until you naturally go into menopause, or remove your ovaries and these methods are done using more meds. Do you want that? And there are many more life decisions I need to make that I don't even know about yet.
Then I researched the alternative medicine road. I did more research here. Months of research, reading books, digging deep into google, you tube, seminars, asking so many people so many questions and reading more. The problem with the alternative medicine road is there is no specific treatment. It's all trial and error and hope that your body likes one of the ones you pick. Then you seek out a Doctor who has already done this. These Doctors who handle cancer patients charge $650 an hour, supplements costing over $5000/month yes per month and not covered by insurance, and it takes years so you'll max your credit and be stressed with debt. And on top of that, live in a bubble and bring your life everywhere you go because everywhere you go people aren't living the life you need to live to survive. I'm not saying it can't be done. We know there are survivors out there who cured themselves naturally but we also know there are many who do not survive because they didn't choose the right trial and error method for them.
Then I thought what about integrative medicine and saw a naturopathic doctor who was covered by insurance but does not cure you from cancer naturally just helping them through there journey. He referred me to a naturopathic oncologist, Dr Noe, who changed my mindset. That's when I chose the integrative approach. Do the western medicine but also incorporate alternative medicine to counteract the side effects and build my body back up ready for the match in the ring, fighting hard. That's exactly what Dr Noe does, she keeps me in the ring, match after match after match. Of course her, along with a positive attitude.
A positive and clean mind is a key to curing cancer. Don't worry about those people out there talk like they walk in your shoes. They don't know shit! And we thrivers wish they never have to cause its a walk no one deserves.
I want to remind people, if you don't walk in our shoes, don't judge, don't assume you know what it's like, don't think it's so easy to determine your path of life when you're confronted.
For those of you who are fighting, stay in the ring, keep fighting, see a naturopathic oncologist along with your western medicine oncologist, keep your body strong and keep those negative people out so you can keep your mind clear and strong!